On the inauguration…

Frodo: I wish the ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened.

Gandalf: So do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.

What will you do with the time you have?


Resolved: Become More Creative in 2017

I can’t believe 2016 is already over! I know a lot of people are happy that it’s done and gone, but I’m still trying to get my head around everything that’s happened.

In the spirit of the new year, though, I have made a resolution: to become more creative. I find that when I have some kind of creative hobby or project to look forward to I am a much happier person. AND, there is research to back this up. It has been awhile since I’ve made a concerted effort to be creative though. As I said, 2016 flew by in the blink of an eye and all of the “woulda-coulda-shouldas” that I thought there would be more time for have been left in its dust. So, I thought, I have to start today or it will never happen.

I filmed this little video above to get the ball rolling. I hope you like it!

Let me know what your resolutions are or how you plan to kick 2017’s ass!

Inspiring Stories: Christine Beshar

I clicked on a link from Bloomberg Law this morning and was treated with this very pleasant surprise. A great story about Christine Beshar, the first woman in NY to become a lawyer without attending law school and the first woman partner at Cravath.

I find these kinds of stories not only inspiring, but encouraging. A lot has changed since Christine Beshar became a lawyer, but it’s good to know that there’s always a place for hard work and dedication.

Parenting Series: Preparing Your Personal Life for Parental Leave

The Basics

There are a lot of unknowns in pregnancy and parenthood. As a family lawyer, I can attest to the fact that no parent can ever really be certain that they’re doing everything correctly – even when everyone is doing their best. When it comes to preparing for a maternity leave, there are some right ways and some wrong ways to make the transition from working person to working parent.

Talk It Out

First, talk with your partner about your expectations for parental leave before you start trying to have a baby. Depending on your age and stage, one of you may have more or less flexibility around parental leave or you may be at a critical point in your career where taking a substantial amount of time off just is not feasible. Obviously, if you’re the person who is planning to have the baby, you’ll need to take some amount of time off to make sure your body has time to heal and recover following the birth, but taking a full year of parental leave (as you’re able to do in Canada) is not a foregone conclusion. Also, allow for the fact that your partner may want to spend some alone time with the baby. As the birthing parent, you are an important part of the child’s life, but you do not want to become the gatekeeper of all things baby. In Canada, parents can (and I think should) share the parental leave benefits to the extent that it’s possible. Starting early on will ensure that you’re able to develop a healthy co-parenting relationship with your partner. However, for some people, taking a full year off may spell financial/career disaster, which leads me to my next point.

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